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This memorial website was created in the memory of our loved one, Robin Smith who died a sudden, tragic death.
Robin Smith, aka Pebbles or Eu4horia, was born on 3/14/1964 to Anna and Robert Hackett of Pondtown, Maryland. She was their second daughter. She was an active child who reportedly was quite the tomboy, getting into unlady-like trouble. She was shy in some situations, but truly she was a people person who could make most strangers smile. She loved to dance and continued to dance around as an adult, embarrassing her daughters.
Robin knew as a young girl that she had crushes on other girls and on her female teachers. She kept this to herself until her late teens. She relayed that her mother knowingly came to her at this point. Robin confided her feelings in her mom, though it wasn't until later that she shared this with her father.
Robin's mother died when Robin was in her early twenties. This was a devastating time for her. Robin mourned the loss of her confidente and guiding light during a confusing, growth-filled time.
Against her true feelings, Robin dated men, trying to do what she felt was expected of her in her religious, rural community. She became pregnant at the age of 24 and chose to marry her very good friend and the father of her child. Robin said that her husband knew of her desires to be with a woman rather than a man, but married her as the families requested.
With her husband, Robin gave birth to 3 beautiful daughters. She had difficult pregnancies ending in three very premature babies. Her first daughter, named for Robin's mother, was born in 1988. Robin was delighted to become a mother. Her second daugter, who came about 3 years later, died shortly after birth. Robin's third daughter, named for her husband, was born approximately a year later in 1992. Robin took an endless amount of pride in her girls. When she described herself, she said she was a woman and mother first.
Robin had a deep spirituality which she frequently displayed through her music. She composed her own music on her guitars and keyboards. One of her favorite pieces, never completed, was an intense, deeply passionate and erotic canon-like piece. Robin could often be found sitting at her keyboards playing hymns or music by Prince. She had an enormous collection of Prince memorabilia and did meet him to give him a spiritual reading.
After separating from her husband, Robin was single on and off for nearly a decade. She now felt able to explore her true self and therefore date women. While she dated, she did not bring people home because it was important to her to protect her girls from people coming and going from their lives.
In the summer of 2003, Robin's father died. This left her feeling orphaned and adrift. Robin had relied on her father's strength since she had lost her mother at such a young age. To get through this difficult time, Robin pulled many supportive people, many from Butch-Femme.com, close to her.
The first week of November 2003, Corinne, aka babygrrl red, found Robin through a personal ad on Butch-Femme.com. The ironic thing is they had known each other through chat and private messages for about 4 years. When they initially chatted, Robin said that she felt Corinne was always blowing her off. Corinne said the same thing. Thus, it took them 4 or more years to find each other through an ad. Of course, neither admitted to be looking for anyone when they found each other.
When Corinne replied to the personal ad she didn't know until Robin's reply came that this was Robin's posting. Corinne kept this secret for several days of talking to Robin on the phone before she revealed that she was her chat buddy of long ago. Robin never stopped teasing Corinne for doing this.
After one week of speaking online and on the phone, Robin and Corinne decided to meet. They each said it was love at first date. They connected on a level they didn't know they would feel. Robin would later say that Corinne was her soulmate and gave Corinne a promise ring to wear until she could afford to give her an engagement ring.
After seeing each other every single weekend for a year, Robin made the big decision to move herself and her daughters to create a family with Corinne. The girls were nervous about moving from where they and their mother had grown up, but now they again had the support of two parents. Corinne was scared to death of taking on two teenaged girls, but she quickly learned to love them.
Shortly after getting the girls back into school this year, one in her final year of high school and taking a college class and the other in her last year of middle school, Robin took ill with severe abdominal pain. She spent a week in the hospital having her pain managed and diagnostic tests run. Corinne was by her side. Finally, her pain was diagnosed as gall bladder disease and surgery was scheduled. Robin and Corinne were reassured that this was common surgery and Robin should go home the following day. The surgery went as planned and Robin awoke promptly after, talking and smiling. Shortly, she went into cardiac arrest, presumably from an embolism, and couldn't be revived. Robin died the evening of September 9th, 2005.
Robin's daughters were taken to live with their aunt. Robin's partner Corinne remains in the family's home.
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2 years... / Corinne
Robbie, it's two years now. I'm still shocked. How could it be 2 whole years? The feelings of grief are still so fresh. Every emotion is raw, the hurt, the sadness, the anger. I miss you and the girls so much. Please Robin, guide the girls back to me...
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One year / Corinne
Robbie, it's been a year now. Today/last night, a year. I can hardly believe it. I wonder how I made it through. Part of me is deeply sad today and part of me feels numb. I've spent the past week walking through our activities a year ago. It doesn't ...
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Ten months / Corinne
Robbie, it's now been ten months since you've been gone. Time has gone by so quickly. Some days I feel strong and know you are proud of me for carrying on. Some days I feel weak and wonder how I can stand on my own two feet. I miss your support. I mi...
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Shocked / QT (old b-f chatter )
It is now the end of May.......... and as one of the old time butch femme chatters I am rarely in the room these days. I am saddened and sorry to hear of Robins passing, she was always there to chat and welcome newbies. Such a warm and kind fri...
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keep your head up / Dixie Starr (none)
I am so sorry about your loss, I know I don't know either of you at all but God brings people into your life for a reason and I know that in the end you both will be together again....hold your head up and celebrate her life everyday in anyway you ca...
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my condolences / Kashesan Read >> |
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sorry / Dee (none) Read >> |
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EU4 will be missed / Sweeny (Friend) Read >> |
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Ride in peace, my friend / Jackson (B/F.com) Read >> |
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It's 2006 / Corinne (partner) Read >> |
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3 months / Your Babygirl (her partner ) Read >> |
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shocked / Jordan (friend) Read >> |
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Peace, Be Still / MzLilee (from B-F.com ) Read >> |
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My deepest sympathy / Kellee H. (none) Read >> |
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She will be missed / LBF (B-F Friend ) Read >> |
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